(And blogger, because I forgot my camera today.)
Lunch was about the same as usual lately—cantyloupe, strawberries, Greek yogurt, a multigrain bagel with Laughing Cow cheese, and what was SUPPOSED to be a big bowl of spinach with a little balsamic on it. But, the balsamic was left at home. Clearly, I’m forgetful today.
After work, I went to the gym in the pouring rain. I ran about ten steps and my knee and shin just didn’t feel great, so I stopped. At this point, I’m just holding out until I get my custom orthotics—I will probably do minimal running until then, because a) obviously my current shoe situation is not working and I don’t want to make the problem worse and b) I kind of have minimal energy for the gym going on right now because of the wedding.
I spent half an hour on the elliptical. It was kind of miserable. Dan Savage’s podcast was the only saving grace. (PS: I met Dan Savage. He’s been in my car. He gave me marriage advice and we did a shot together.)
Now, why I’m a bad bride.
Our house has been kind of in a state of perma-squalor for the last few weeks. I haven’t been around to clean, Tim just doesn’t really notice that things need cleaning, so, yeah, it’s gotten bad. Particularly…our carpet. You can imagine the amount of hair two moderately floofy cats in springtime, a beagle, and a stressed twentysomething redhead Sasquatch produce.
So I broke the rules. Technically, any shower or wedding gifts received before the wedding aren’t supposed to be used until, well, after the wedding. But I was dying to use our Dyson Animal Ball and get some normal, clean carpet going on. (Our current vacuum, well, doesn’t suck, literally.) It was worth it. Even Tim begged me to take a whirl.
It appears the major culprits were Southpaw and me.
(If Tim dumps me in the next two weeks, I’ll ask my sister if she wants her money back. But I’m keeping the damn vacuum.)
In other wedding news…we have a situation.
We invited 204 guests to our wedding. We currently have 88 coming (3 of which are children under 5 that are free), 80 NOT coming, and 36 question marks. Of the 36 question marks, we’re anticipating that at most, 8 or 9 will come. (Most of them are really long distance guests we’re not SUPER close to.)
Our venue contract states that we have a minimum of $X. To meet $X, we would have to have 114 guests attend under our basic wedding package. Clearly…that’s not going to happen. But we don’t want to pay all this money to the venue for 20 guests that aren’t there, right?
So we are looking into upgrading our package.
- If we upgrade from the basic package to the deluxe package, we get an extra hors d’oeuvre, wine service during dinner (we have open bar, but it closes during the meal), and a full on dessert table with 12 options rather than two plated dessert options. The cons of this? If we do have about 95 guests attending, it will put us slightly over our minimum—not a ton, but a few hundred bucks. Also, it doesn’t seem like we GET all that much more for what we’re paying. Our crowd doesn’t really drink wine, so I doubt they’ll make much use of the wine service.
- Stick with our current package and add a lot more appetizers and some other random stuff—side dishes, maybe a special martini bar, maybe more desserts. The cons of this? We already have a TON of food. Like, guests are going to be rolling around. Do we really need to add a sweet table if we’re already going to have two flavors of wedding cake, cheesecake, and profiteroles? Prolly not.
- Stick with our current package and eat the cost.
We’re not really into just eating the cost…but neither other option seems great either. I’m thinking of potentially bargaining with the reception venue—maybe pay for the deluxe package, but skip the wine and add a few more apps instead? Or see if I can switch the wine service at dinner to keeping the bar open? I don’t know.
What do you think? Upgrade the package? Add on a bunch of appetizers? Any other great ideas?